Hi! :) My name is Cj Echano, and my girlfriend’s name is Bea. I’m the one who cut my hair short. I don’t really know how to begin our story… Uhm, well… Bea and I have been together for 3 years, 3 months, and 4 days now to be exact. We met each other in 4th year high school, Febuary 09, 2010, both at the age of 16. We made it official on the 12th of Feb that year :”> The 2 pictures at the very top (left corner) are literally our first pictures together (as you can see we are sitting on the floor of a classroom in our school uniforms.
Since then, we’ve been through A LOT of difficult and heart-breaking situations. It took my parents a while to accept me for who I am… I got punched by my brother twice because I made my stepmom cry when she caught me on facebook chatting with my first girlfriend ever… I got grounded a million times because they found out I had crushes on girls and stuff, they took away my cellphone, no internet, nothing… I felt the disappointment in their eyes every single time … It pained me to break their hearts… But you can’t help falling in love… You can’t change who you are even if you wanted to… No matter what they say, no matter what they do, You are who you are…….. MY DAD….. :”) Oh my dad…. when he found out… he didn’t say a word… he just pulled me in and hugged me and kissed me on the head… and it was the strongest proof of his unconditional love for me :”) Eventually my whole family accepted me… and it made me happy of course :) Though they didn’t like it when I cut my hair, and to be honest I didn’t even know why I cut it. Being gay and loving someone has nothing to do with your hair… but I just did. And I don’t mind being the butch in our relationship. It doesn’t really matter to me…
Anyways, like I said, we’ve been through a lot. I’ve experienced being degraded by her family A LOT, her mother used to approach me rudely in every way she possibly could, she texted me multiple times and told me how much she hated me… dreaded me… she shouted at me… she did/said all sorts of things to me that broke my heart entirely… but she couldn’t break ME… she couldn’t break US… she couldn’t scare me away from her daughter… I loved Bea too much to give up on her. They forced us to break up. They tried to separate us thousands of times… But I fought for her… and she fought for me. They said we wouldn’t make it, they said all kinds of things to ruin us… They said I had nothing to offer them, they said we had no future… They said I was no good for her… But I proved them wrong… I am now 19 years old and the youngest employee in a contracting company for the US Military in Afghanistan, working for our future… They said I wouldn’t make it here…. but I did, and I remembered how much they tried to pull me down… and it felt so fucking awesome to watch them watch me finally reach my goal/success, and slam it into their faces. Now Bea and I are old enough to live together and have a future together. Now we are responsible enough to be on our own and not give a fuck about people who stand in our way. If you guys are experiencing the same things as I did, don’t give up okay? Just hold on tight! It will all be worth it in the end :”>
The last 4 pictures on the right was when I came home this April 2013 after 1 year of a long distance relationship, I just came home and surprised Bea with that sign I made, it was kind of lame but hey! =)) SHE WAS REALLY SURPRISED AND HAPPY :”> being able to touch her face and hold her in my arms after 1 year felt so amazing and overwhelming, it was like I never left at all :”) … I stayed for 3 weeks in the Philippines with her and now I’m back in Afghanistan. I get to come home at least every 4 months, and it’s okay. We try our best to stay strong and beat the distance… But distance means so little when someone means so much, right? :)I love her deeply. I’d do anything for her. She is my world, my life, my heart and my soul… I want to marry her and let her have me forever… SHE IS THE ONE… and when you find the one, you just never let go ♥
So yeah, that’s kinda the summary of our story… Of my side at least. =)) I’m sorry if it’s really long, but I hope you find the time to read this.